The Gift of Love

It is a mystery why we fall in LOVE.
It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.

You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes but you will never do anything more than take life out of the experience. Just like life itself is more than the sum of bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, LOVE is the sum of interest and attractions and commonalities that 2 people share. And just as life is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that can’t be questioned in its way.

Hopefully, at least once in your life, flower, and you’ll take hold of it and celebrate it in inexpressible beauty. THIS IS THE DREAM WE ALL SHARE. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.

When this happen to young people, they do often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see it as a gift that, just as freely, moves away. When fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, then move on.

They want answers where there are none. They want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to make their love change, thinking that if small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame the circumstances and say that if they go far and away and start a new life together, their love will grow.

They try to give meaning to what has happened but there is no meaning beyond the love itself. And until they accept its own mysterious ways, they will live in a SEA of MISERY.

You need to know this about love and accept it. You need to threat what it brings to you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF! There is nothing wrong with you. LOVE just didn’t choose to rest in other person’s heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your door but refuse the GIFT that you cannot return. DO NOT TAKE ADVANTAGE, DON’T CAUSE PAIN. How you deal with love is how you deal yourself. Our hearts feel the same pain and joy, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with a man, and he falls in love with you, but then chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or assess blame. LET IT GO! There is a reason and there is a meaning. YOU WILL KNOW IN TIME.

Remember that you don’t choose love. LOVE CHOOSES YOU. All you can do is accept all its mysteries when it comes into your life. Fill the way it fills you, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long in love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled with love, and then begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of is overflowing but as their love cools, they revert to seeing as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is to treat it as a gift that can be made to grow only by GIVING IT AWAY.

Remember this and keep it in your heart. LIFE AS ITS OWN TIME, ITS OWN SEASONS, AND ITS OWN COMING AND GOING. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave your heart or the heart of your loved one, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should d. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came for a MOMENT in your life.

If you keep your heart open, it will come again.

source: Letters to my son

PS: Thx for showing me this, shobs. ;)